Sharing ones life through social media and other web platforms is a chance for us to show everyone our best self.
We show all the best sides of ourselves and want the world to see just how fabulous we can be.
I for one refuse to face the camera without make up (and if I do I use a filter on my iPhone) and if I am doing a selfie for the web, I ensure the background is in the neatest corner of my house so that I am giving the impression I have a beautifully kept home.
Why do we go to the extent of doing this? Because we want the world to know that everything in our life is hunky dory and we want people to accept us, to be envious of us… and more importantly we want people to like us.
What’s the problem with this?
Not everyone will like you, that’s just a fact. Everyone has their own opinion, and whilst some people will adore you, others will despise you. That’s the beauty of living in this world- we are all different. Imagine how boring it would be if we were all the same.
Take for instance my blog, for some it will be truly inspiring and readers will really benefit from the content …. others will frown and look away. There will also be those who shun my blog and think ‘well that’s 7 minutes of my life I’ll never get back.’
That’s okay, if I can help one work at home Mama, and give joy to at least one reader and still continue to help my family whilst working from- then I am one lucky lady.
So how to get more people to like you? Here are my top 5 tips;
1) Just be you
There are more than 7 billion people in this world- none of which are exactly like you.
That’s pretty special.
Just think, there is no one on this Earth with your unique talents, no one who looks exactly the way you do and no two individuals who think exactly alike.
You were born to be that special someone- so just be you.
2) Rekindle your spark
Remember when you were a kid there was that thing that you loved doing the most? You did it for hours and hours and sometimes you would forget to pee because you were just too busy doing that thing?
Well what was it? And how can you continue to do that and monetize it?
Maybe you enjoyed baking with your Mama, is there a recipe site you could create to share with others?
Did you always enjoy watching films- websites are constantly looking for content for creative film reviewers.
Whatever your creative outlet- share it. People will be able to sense the passion and find it oh so contagious!
Share in that love and meeting like minded people will just follow suit.
3) Stop talking about yourself!
People LOVE talking about themselves. And let’s face it – so do you!
Shut up long enough to hear what others are saying. I mean really shut up!
Let the person talk about their interests, really engage in the conversation and ask questions. Don’t just act interested, be interested.
You might just find you will learn something.
4) If someone insults you, send them a positive thought or note
We don’t have control over others, we only have control over ourselves- remember life is 20% what happens to you and 80% how you react.
Responding positively and nicely to someone who wants to hurt your feelings- not only shows class but it also helps to circulate that good karma.
Wave politely to the unimpressed couple who have just watched you leave the store with screaming babies- they won’t know what hit em!
Let that nasty comment slide- the next time they post something lol worthy then compliment them. It’s probably well deserved.
5) Check yourself out every now and then
This one definitely falls into my vain files- but trust me this works!
Look in the mirror if you’re rolling in self doubt- remind yourself of all the wonderful things you have accomplished in your life, all the great people that surround you and of all the great things you are yet to do!
Give yourself a pat on the back because no one does it better than you.
You will find yourself easier to love when your biggest fan is starting right back at you.